Bradtastics Blog

I’ve decided to share some of my thoughts on “pickup.” I’m writing this sooner than originally intended; it was my intent to “do this” from the very creation of the group (called “Bradtastics” as a last-resort), however, I wanted to have better positioning before “coming out.” Originally, I didn’t want any publicity or net-presence until my book was either finished or published. Things change.

I can’t say for sure that women are in more danger now, but I do know that the so-called “seduction community” is largely misogynistic and is a threat to the safety, well-being and happiness of women, all-over.

A group of men have dedicated themselves to the creation and sale of techniques designed to manipulate and trick women into ignoring their wants by focusing strongly on psychological needs and the semi-primitive physical needs of women.

Part of the strength of these techniques stems from the trivialization of it’s effectiveness through the criticism of the show The Pickup Artist and the book The Game, and it’s being done by the very people whom claim to want to help women. This itself is something to change.

The disturbing thought is that The Pickup Artist show on VH1 revealed the bulk of the “seduction community’s secrets,” thereby nullifying it’s efficacy. Many of these club-going women believe that they can spot the pickup artists and catch their tricks.

Except these men on the Internet have seen the show, too. They consider it their job to recreate techniques and redefine what it is to be a PUA in-order to continue to evade detection. Their goal is to avoid getting caught, and they know that they use manipulation and trickery. And they know that’s why they have to hide their secrets.

People have the opportunity to learn about relationships during adolescence, but it’s not officially “taught.” Sometimes it’s even discouraged.

Schools teach sex-ed, attempt to encourage abstinence, but ignore relationships. Whether dating is encouraged, discouraged or tolerated, it isn’t a subject taught at school. The subject is entirely avoided, and children learn that simply-asking about dating isn’t okay. Children are forced to figure it out, if they can’t… well, too bad.

This is really, really bad. I’d love to start or be apart-of a revolution that adds this type of education to the American high-school curriculum, but with so many education cutbacks, I’m pretty-sure that that won’t happen. At least not anytime soon.

However, there’s a stigma against the topic altogether, and that needs to go. People are ridiculed over the mere admission that “they need help” with dating, relationships and/or sex.

Especially men. “Real men” can’t admit to “not knowing what to do.” They’re not allowed to say, “I need help getting a date.”

Well, why is online (semi-anonymous) dating such a big industry? I know why anonymity is such an important part.

I’m here to say, that you aren’t any less of a person because this stuff hasn’t come naturally to you. You shouldn’t feel ashamed. You don’t need to hide. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to be here. It’s normal, it’s good even, that you want to be a better person. I’m glad that you want to have better relationships, that you want to have better sex. I’m glad you’re here reading this, I’m happy to write it. Society needs to be okay with openly talking and sharing this information.

I’m writing this because I want to prevent manipulation of women. The larger part of the “seduction community” has little-to-no respect for women, evidenced by the techniques that they propose. They describe women as a means to an end in the pursuit of orgasm. They aim to “trade-in” masturbation for “the real thing,” the woman’s feelings seem irrelevant in their mission “to get laid.”

Some have the audacity to claim that “that isn’t so,” but often, those statements are made by the same men who propose pure-deception to “trick” a woman into a bedroom, and the utter-vulgarity in their descriptions of events are telltale.

The self-proclaimed and so-called “pickup artists” certainly deserve their bad reputation, and I’m not going to try and change that. In fact, I want women to know how to spot the tricks of the PUAs, I want women to blow these suckers out.

They want to keep their secrets hidden. I want to keep my secrets hidden from them… for now. My group is open to all women, however, because my techniques, research and relationship tactics represent “real value” and what I think women want. But I could be wrong, and that’s why I openly encourage women to debate or set-straight anything that they don’t agree with—after all, I’m “doing this for them.”

Well, technically, I’m doing this for men, so that they can treat women properly… err, better-yet, wonderfully. Women are beautiful, people are cool, connections are great and love is incalculably-fantastic—I write and share this to encourage better relationships and partnerships.

I specifically want women to benefit from my work because there’s so much crap out there to the contrary. So many men are working toward women’s collective-deficit; they’re fearless, they encourage dirty and underhanded cheats and unwanted-advances.

However, not everyone reading their work is bad. Not EVERY self-proclaimed PUA is misogynistic at heart. Some of these men just aren’t fully aware… they’re lied to, and without someone to rebuke and debate the words of “the masters,” they lack a reference-point to see how far-off and far-out some “guides” are.

I aim to help people, specifically men, to be better, more productive, high-value individuals of quality, honesty and morality. I want women to feel special, because they are. I want men to make women feel beautiful, because they are.

And I want misogynistic assholes to get exposed for what they are, and I’ll be happy when the men who’ve paid thousands of dollars to learn the secrets behind getting laid get constantly rejected by an educated public.

The “real secret” isn’t secret: be a high-quality, valuable person. However, that itself has it’s secrets and requires a whole-helluva-lotta hard work—and that’s what I’m going to teach, share, discuss and debate.